It's an age old question and the answer still eludes me. Why do good girls like bad guys? (DMX (feat. Dyme) voice)
I always hear women say "All the good men are taken." Face it ladies you don't want a "Good Man", you want a "Bad Boy". You're looking for a thug , a roughneck, a rebel that does whatever he wants. He's sexy, he's confident, he takes control, but most of all you think you're going to be the one to tame him.
The effed up part about it is this is the same guy that treats you like ish.. Now every other week it's the same ol' story.... "He never spends time with me" "He's always at the club with his boys." "I know he's fu$$in that dirty bitch at his job. I see the way she looks at him!" Most of the time though, you brought it on yourself. I've seen men slap their girl, choke'em up, call them every name in the book, and publicly humiliate them. Still she stays with him. Some ladies are like magnets for losers. While others always go for the wrong man while the guy that would treat them right is standing right in their face. How many of you girls got a friend right now who's hella cool. You always talk and go out with each other (usually after a breakup). He's always there for you when you need him. he calls you on your B-day. He gives you advice. You've probably even hooked up on a drunk night and it wasn't half bad, but "you just can't see yourself with him like that." So you continue to get used and end up with a broken heart once again.
Believe me, I was a "Bad Boy" for a long time. And I have to admit it was a lot of fun. But I was always taught that when we become men we do away with childish things. I'm in my thirties I have 5 kids and I go hard everyday to build a better future for them. Everything they learn about relationships starts in the home. So as a father I have to be mindful of the way I treat their mom (whether I'm with her or not)and the way I treat all of the women in my life. I might not always make the right choice, but at the end of the day I am working on being a better man. #Imjustsayingthough
I wish I knew why woman never put the effort into leading my example. If I want my man to be a good man I NEED TO BE A GOOD WOMAN!
ReplyDeleteIf ladies are acting how you portray them in this blog they need to pick up Steve Harvey's "Act like a lady, think like a man".
Men are simple, it's the woman that make it harder for themselves. Now, I am a woman but the difference between me and some other woman is that I was raised by a man, a real man at that. My dad cooked, cleaned, and even though my dad was a "player" not one time did I ever in my life and still to this day see my father treat a woman bad. My father was very honest with woman though so maybe that's why he was never is some crazy situations with woman cause they knew from the start it was just for fun.
I am glad you figured out that how you treat your woman has an effect on your children. Most men think they aren't role models for children but really at the end of the day you daughter is going to look for what she knows.
Ladies, WAKE UP! You must be the change you wish to see! My finance and I have been through a lot but at the end of the day the man in h changed for me because I told him if you can't treat me with respect then you need to go find someone else to likes to be treated like S&*t cause I am not the one.
Joanna you seem like the exception to the rule. A lot of women out there just take physical and mental abuse all of the time. It's not like there's a certain type either. Rich women, poor women, succesful women, look how many famous women are abused. What is it that makes them stay with that guy. Especially when there are so many men to choose from. I hear it all the time, "I don't play that" but there are a lot of women out there that are being mistreated right now and you would never have guessed it.
ReplyDeleteNice guys finish last, believe me I've been the nice guy before. Women see kindness in a man as weekness. In my experience if I treat a woman with little respect and pay them no attention they try harder to keep me. #justsaying